Friday, October 17, 2014

I suppose we'd better discuss this. Relationship 101 or not.

goa it is
So, the man and I celebrated ten years together [of having first met each other and deciding on being together]. And a ten-year anniversary calls for an epic something, and that’s what we attempted to do in a not so original way, by flying off to the beachside, reminiscing times good and bad over things Russian, Brazilian and a year’s supply of omega3 fatty acids. Five lovely days. I also, unbeknownst to the man, spent plenty time thinking about us [BUT OF COURSE], about happier and sadder couples [BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT YOU DO ON AN ANNIVERSARY, NON?], about things that could have turned out differently; I was taking stock, with many, many notes-to-self, which I will now blog and record it for posterity. This is my 9th edit. So here goes my RELATIONSHIP 101 or not. 
Nothing prepares you for this. Not Rachel McAdams. Not Shonda Rhimes.
Leap of faith. Whole lot of it.
Niceness is important and sometimes the lack there of. [Don’t ask]
Not taking the business of couple-dom seriously. [Yes seriously]
Being generous, being giving, etcetera. If not, tweak, tweak and tweak.    
Being 100 per cent honest and expecting 100 per cent honesty. Else, end-of-story right? And if it ain’t the end, make it the greatest beginning. One. Last. Beginning.
Indifference. Know when to be indifferent. [A game changer]
I will mind my own business. Repeat after me. I will mind my own business.
Love was born in a bright and shiny Hallmark store.
And ‘loving, caring and sharing’ was birthed at Miss Universe Inc.
You are the center of your universe. Quite like he is in his.
Yet you and him are a team. This is whole team business is incredibly hard, but totally worth it.
Everything is better with a little bit of air. So spending plenty time outdoors, together and solo.

Finally, a happy woman in love once said… nothing. [i wish it did, but this isn't going to work, not now, not ever].
And, and, and, if you seek drama, you will find drama.TM  
We don’t want drama, non?